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Relationships are about sharing our individualities, differences and teaching each other about acceptance. Most of what we see and read focuses on the unhealthy; we see setback after setback, men who treat women poorly, women who treat men poorly and none of the boring parts in-between. And, the only way we can do that is if we have room to do so. When one of my relationships ended, I remember feeling that it happened because we didn't grow alone first. We spent so much time exploring the world together, reading the same stories and thinking the same thoughts that most of my life was his, as well.
Without him, I felt unsteady, confused and doubtful about my identity.
So, when we split, I fell through the wheel, landed and had to pick myself up. Just as I was about to stand, I met another guy with whom I fell into a similar cycle. I jumped into our world, isolating myself from my own.
And, like my relationship, this one ended, leaving me on the ground, struggling to get up.
The trick with relationships is that to be able to grow on your own while you're in one and to maintain a sense of freedom or self, you must already know how to stand. You must find someone who stands on his or her own, so the two of you can stand beside one another.
How to not lose yourself when you find love.
This way, both of you will be ready to share yourselves without compromising your identities in the process. You can look in the mirror and more often than not, say to yourself, "Yeah, you go girl. You accept yourself, even when you feel jealous of others, angry or insecure. Just as much as you care for yourself in times of sadness, you also support yourself in times of success.
You pat yourself on the back for promotions, new jobs and even getting to work on time. You see yourself as a friend, not an enemy. There are many ways you can start liking yourself more each day.
To start, try thanking yourself. Thank you for taking a walk. Thank you for sleeping in. Thank you for saying no when you didn't want to do something.
Thanking yourself even once a day can help! We are all human, which means we all make mistakes.
1. realise that you deserve healthy love
So, instead of getting defensive when you're called out for something, laugh it off. Instead of beating yourself up under your breath if you lose your keys, laugh it off. If you want to be silly and loud and jump around to your favorite song, do it. Try finding ways to laugh more during the day.
When you see yourself about to respond in a snippety way, try to see if you can respond in a more fun-loving, open way. While this might apply to your career, it doesn't have to.
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Maybe you get to the gym, have a smoothie, eat a piece of pie, swing on a swing set, stop for a coffee and sit outside, get a facial or read a good book. Before making any kind of decision, you don't need to run it by my friends, family or even bartenders.
If you don't listen to yourself, you could end up in trouble and most likely, very unhappy. Most of the time, it comes down to not getting what you need because you end up getting what everyone else thinks you need. Know that trusting what you think and feel means you value what you think and feel. The less you trust yourself, the less you will value what you have to say or the emotions that lead you to act in certain ways.
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To stand on your own, you must trust your thoughts and feelings. The best way to begin is to quietly sit for about five minutes a day.
Listen to what you earnestly feel, then take one thought and act on it. Take one action that will move you closer to what you desire.
To feel free in a relationship, both people have to let the other person be whom he or she is. You like what you do When you wake up in the morning, you know you have a full day to use well.
You trust yourself Before making any kind of decision, you don't need to run it by my friends, family or even bartenders. Search Close.