Many women worry about having to compete with the younger women that their men meet every day. It's natural to feel insecure about losing your husband to the cute, young barista that works at your favorite coffee shop.
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But it's not physically attraction that will keep a relationship or marriage going — it's learning how to create a deep emotional connection with your man that will transcend all else. Wise older wives have something much more ificant than toned bodies and flawless skin: they have years' worth of happy marital memories, which have enhanced their ability to have a healthy relationship and keep their men coming home every night emotionally fulfilled.
Here are four ways to create a deep emotional connection with a man and keep him from ever wandering, temporarily or permanently. In a world where most men feel they have to act tough just to make it through the day at work or survive a night of beer and football with the guys, they really need a place where they can be vulnerable.
As a woman, you should be the one who creates that vulnerability, inviting space for him. We all know that men are not like women in the way we talk at length about our problems and speak directly about our feelings, but they do need an outlet for their built-up stress and negative feelings. You risk vulnerability with him and share with him your feelings, secrets, fears.
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Basically, you reveal your underbelly to him. Surrendering to his hugs, kisses, and soothing words is essential. Once you start revealing your underbelly to him and allowing him to comfort you, he will start to open up about his feelings, fears, secrets, needs, and more. Now that your man has opened up and shared parts of himself with you, guess what happens with a lot of women?
When us women see red, we want to win a fight and feel like our feelings are valid. But all your feelings are valid.
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Nothing he says or does is going to negate your feelings. If you want your man to hear your feelings, see your hurt, and understand your pain, speak to him like he is someone you hear, see, and understand. He will realize that you are able to honor his person and his feelings, despite your own negative feelings. He will then start doing the same for you. They want nothing more than to hold your feelings, even when you are upset. If you can bring your feelings about him to him in a safe environment that invites closeness and positive change, he will break his back trying to honor your feelings and wishes, even if he has to make sacrifices for your happiness.
He really wants to take care of your emotional needs. Some women are naturally open with their physical affection. They touch and caress their man or everyone they know lovingly, tenderly, warmly. These women are goddesses. Please don't be one of those women whose touches are pulling in nature.
Touches that are not caresses but are more taking in their energy are not mindful touches and push men away. Examples include pulling on your husband when you hug him instead of slowly sinking into deep physical closeness with him.
Another example is being tense with your touch with the goal of having him be affectionate back. Instead, you should move toward his direction. Melt into his warmth. Let your muscles relax and invite his touch. It feels so horrible to him. Being genuinely playful requires you to feel happy in your life; therefore, you need to start having a positive, loving relationship with yourself.
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You should dote on yourself. Take any opportunity to laugh, to have fun, and to relax. You should make room to feel your negative feelings and be less hard on yourself when you are feeling down. You should take time for you and take care of your mind, body, and soul.
You should find a way to love your job and hobbies and find the joyousness in them. Indulge your senses to enhance your sensuality.
Once you love yourself in a gentle, playful, forgiving way, and you feel inside like you authentically have a positive, playful, feminine, sweet, soft, silly, giggly energy, you can bring that into your relationship. Take any moment you can to enjoy your man and the moments you share together. Refuse to take anything he does or says too seriously.
Find ways to make him warm and smiley and tender and silly inside. Happy moments together create emotional intimacy, because laughter makes your hearts happy, and happy hearts are full of love to give. Kristina Marchant is a relationship and dating coach who helps women gain confidence and learn to connect with men on a soulful, honest, safe, and sexy level. in. YourTango Experts. Expert Blog. Photo: getty. Kristina Marchant.
6 ways to build a deep emotional connection with your man
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