For many people, this has them confused about whether such things like breaking up over the phone or via test message are acceptable forms of ending the relationship. According to a survey from Marie Magazine, some folks — especially men, are prone to NOT breaking up at all and just leave a long period of silence to act as the notification that the relationship has ended. Decency should still prevail in your life whether your relationship is virtual or otherwise. In fact, according to a Decent Persons Guide to Breaking up, doing so over the phone or via text is only acceptable if the relationship is a long distance one.
Meaning you are in West Virginia and your partner is in California and there is no chance that the two of you will be seeing each other any time soon. Cowardice and lacking compassion come to mind first and foremost. This is especially true if you are in a relationship that has been ongoing for a month or more, that has settled into a routine of seeing each other several times per week and communicating often whether on the phone, via text or and skype. In this case, chances are pretty good that the other person has developed feelings for you of some sort, and deserves a few minutes of your undivided attention so that you can break up.
The best ways to break up with someone while keeping your dating karma in tact, is to do so privately and in person. This means not meeting them at a crowded restaurant where they are sure to exhibit strong emotions in front of a bunch of strangers. Instead, choose a setting that is private, and enables both of you a quick get away.
How to break up respectfully
Ask that they MEET you somewhere, rather than drive together which le to awkward moments in the car together on the way home. You should also avoid breaking up with someone in either your home or his or her home — where the emotions in the aftermath may lead you back into the bedroom with the person that you just broke up with.
Big mistake! You also should avoid breaking up with someone while they are at work, at a family function, on their birthday, during a funeral or during any other special time. Obviously, you have been thinking about the break up for a while, so putting some extra planning into breaking up well is just common decency. Some ideas are to meet at a park, or to meet somewhere where the two of you can for a walk together.
Once you break up the other person will probably want answers. Try to be nice here. And move on swiftly. And also remember, that once YOU break up with someone — you should have the decency to not call them, or text them, or tell them you are thinking about them after a few drinks when you are feeling lonely. This only prolongs the break up and increases the hurt. Another terrible way to break up with someone is to change your relationship status online on such social media devices as Facebook or dating sites BEFORE telling the person.
These are the antics of a year-old girl, and only serve to embarrass the person you were dating. Listen, dating is touch and go.
Relationships start and end, come and go. Breaking up with someone or being dumped is never easy. But it should still be done with respect. I dont want to deal with that again. If that is by text or call, so be it. This article seems very one-sided, too personal, and quite frankly inconsiderate. This is actually a really good read, Regarding the comment, u are afraid of breaking up with him in person because he might yell?
That sounds pretty petty. Unless u are afraid of being physically harmed, because you owe him a courteous considerate,respectful explanation … then there is no reason to break up with him over the phone unless u are the close minded one. Do u want him to look back negatively about u or positively? Either way being yelled at means u care more about yourself than anything else… phone breakups provide no closure for the receiver.
Are you not capable of ending a relationship maturely because the person got upset that you were breaking up with them?
Unless you broke up in a fashion that he felt disrespected. Most people who break up respectfully and assertively in a cordial exit, what did you do to make him disrespected? Your answer really bleeds selfishness. That shows how insincere you really are as a person. Stay away from relationships, period. I get nostalgic from time to time about my younger years. I was devastated… now several years later part of the devastation was the unclassy way she broke up.
It really left no closure and degraded me as a person. Of course her excuse was that I was too controlling and she was afraid. I even took her back when she came back crying… did it again over the phone months later. Why did she do it again over the phone?
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Was it because I was a paychotic sob, that she painted me out to be to her friends. Nope… she just didnt think it was necessary to owe it to my face this time. No ability, no compassion. I was in a serious relationship with someone over 16 yrs old of course and they cut me off over a telephone conversation, also they felt the need to blame my character flaws on top of that.
They lived a 5-minute drive down the road. The next few days she was already seeing new people.
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I was crushed, I had so many questions. The lack of compassion, the lack of closure.
Any question I had afterward was returned with coldness and more blame. I made the attempt to make contact. They had moved on completely, found someone new. Now they are married 9 yrs with 3 children, live in a nice neighborhood, have good jobs, etc.
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Dating karma? Never happened. Just recently happened to me and this article summarises exactly how I felt. This is someone who I could still have been friends with but the telephone break up made me realise, he had little regard for me as a human being…i therefore made the decision, much to his great disappointment, to not be a friend to him.
I believe friends should have respect and regard for other and the way he did it on the phone made me feel disrespected and was what hurt the most. There is this boy on Snapchat and I liked him at first but I am not into him as much as I used too. How do I tell him politely that I want to break up with him? I just want to be single for a while. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.
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