When george clooney became a dad at 56 he got kudos. but older moms like me get shamed.
Not only can women have children later, but children, mothers and families as a whole often benefit precisely because they chose to wait. That kind of backlash is reserved for older moms.
At 41, I started trying to conceive shortly after marrying my year-old husband, and chronicled my three-year journey in a column for The New York Times. The criticism was immediate. No one claimed that he was too old to be a dad or hurled insults at him for delaying parenthood.
No one blinks an eye that actor Jeff Goldblum had his first kid at 62, and comedian Steve Martin at Or that actor George Clooney was 56 when his twins were born. Can you imagine The Federalist writing this of a year-old man who would like to delay becoming a parent — as it does of Rep.
Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez, D-N. Tammy DuckworthD-Ill. These men — tagging along to start their third families — were the most buoyant patients….
At 30, our eggs start to decline in quality and it takes longer to conceive. At 35, fertility drops, then declines more sharply at 37, then takes a nosedive at 40, mostly petering off around Clearly, both men and women are competing with time.
And science is helping to even out the playing field, thereby nullifying the idea that men have a greater claim to older parenthood. This increasingly allows older couples to reproduce. Yet, only mothers get berated for child-rearing at an older age.
So why do we still call women, but not their male partners, selfish and career-oriented if they want to have children later in life? Studies actually show that children born to older mothers have better outcomes, that older mothers tend to have higher education and smaller families than their younger peers, and happiness increases after childbirth for older mothers.
So, not only can women have children later, but children, mothers and families as a whole often benefit precisely because they chose to wait. IE 11 is not supported. For an optimal experience visit our site on another browser.
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