I've heard anecdotally from a couple of women that dating was much easier for them in SF than in NYC, and I'm wondering if it's true generally or if it was just the luck of these particular individuals.
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My impression of dating in NYC is that there are more women than men, and more really beautiful women in particular, so the men can be picky, making it difficult for normal non-model women. If you're straight and female and have dated in both cities: is it easier in San Francisco?
This is one of the biggest cases of your mileage may vary possible. You're mostly correct on the stereotype for New York but keep in mind that it's a stereotype. The of women in a particular city doesn't tell you anything about how many women Sure, there are more models per capita but that says nothing about what guys are looking for.
I've noticed that moving to New York doesn't make a guy play the s game any more than he otherwise would, but more guys prone to playing the s game move to New York. I can't speak on San Francisco, but I've heard that women pass around the same phrase about its dating scene as women at tech schools: "The odds are good, but the goods are odd. If anything, I've heard from my straight woman friends that they've actually found it harder in SF compared to other places they've been. There might be some selection bias at play here, though; I suspect the truth lies somewhere in between, in that it isn't really that different compared to other cities.
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That's just one data point, but YMMV. I had a pretty good time dating in SF in my late 20s. Best answer: Being familiar with both- yes it is easier for women in SF But I found it easiest in other parts of the U. The "goods are odd" attitude definitely pervades, and it's offputting. Best answer: There have been a bunch of different articles written about this over the years, but suffice it to say data seems to indicate there are more single women on the East Coast than the West.
And the great thing about the map above is you can play with ages and see how that changes the distribution of singles! I was somewhat older in SF, though not terribly so. On the other hand, I am mixed race, and I got the impression my race was a much bigger problem for people in SF. There "I will date other races" mostly seemed to mean "I like Asian girls. As always, all caveats apply. Best answer: I've dated in both places, as a straight lady in my twenties and now thirties.
I assumed that SF would be easier, because there are definitely more single men here.
But I actually preferred NYC, partly because it seemed like there were more people who were better cultural fit for me like dame says above- I'm also into books and museums and not Burning Man, so ymmv. I had no trouble meeting a plethora of great guys in NYC, and the bigger challenge was choosing between them. Best answer: I am originally from NYC, then ed the military and travelled all over. I have literally not found another city, in multiple countries, that is as hard to date in as NYC. There were a lot of great looking guys, but they were commitment-phobic and unable to be serious about anything.
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Best answer: My experience has been that it's much easier to find people to date casually in SF, but that men in NYC are much more interested in relationships. As everyone else said, YMMV. Best answer: I've dated in both places but found it just as difficult. I think I prefer east coast people in general though.
Also more dorky smart men who want a dorky smart girlfriend. Best answer: I haven't dated in San Francisco, but I have dated in Seattle and Portland which is pretty similar so maybe you'll accept my anecdote as well. New York City is definitely harder to date in that you definitely feel more pressure to maintain a higher standard of grooming IMO that is the main difference between the coasts.
Minus L. I agree with amaire, though- Not until I moved back to Austin did I notice a distinct "urge to settle down" that starts in the late 20s.
I do not think you can find that on either coast. But the cities of the Southwest are also good for women in the dating department and men are more likely to think marriage, sooner. Newer ». This thread is closed to new comments. Tags dating.