He reminds you of how much he loves you
Too many people believe men do not realistically act in these ways. But they're wrong. Good men do act in these ways. If you are feel a need to justify unhealthy or bad behavior because "he's a man", then you're not dating a good man. There are ways to tell if a guy you're interested in will treat you well, be a good partner and grow alongside you throughout your relationship.
To help, I've made a list of things a good man will never do. A good man will never take jabs at your appearance in a way that's demeaning to you or makes you feel badly about yourself. If he is doing this, he's purposely attempting to lower your self-worth so you won't feel confident enough to leave him.
“a good man is hard to find.”
It's his way of trying to control you and it's emotional abuse. In a healthy relationship, there is no need to hide anything. Someone who does this is showing a massive insecurity on their part and is likely projecting their own infidelities and issues onto you.
This should not be ignored. If you have, and he's snooping, you have a more complicated problem on your hands.
Because a good man is hard to find.
If that's the case, a visit to a couples counselor is probably aa good idea to help you move forward in a healthy way. A good man will always be willing to help and support those around him and will never be discouraging or insulting. In fact, one of a good man is his willingness to help or support you when you want to dive into your dreams. Will he pick up a paint brush or a calculator to help?
Or even just cook you dinner after a busy day pursuing your dreams? These things are serious s of a good man who wants you to be happy.
A man or woman should be with you because they value and appreciate who you are, not what you do or how well you sell yourself to them. You should be a top priority in a guy's life.
A man should have have a network and individuality, sure. But there is a difference between leading an active social life, and knocking the woman in your life further and further down your priority list. Relationships are a partnership.
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A team. A two-way street. We all go through them. You deserve someone who will wake up every morning and pledge to do and be the best they can for you because that's how to know if he's a good man. There are plenty of arguments in the world that monogamy is not "natural" and that humans are not biologically wired to spend an entire lifetime with one single person. Regardless of the scientific validity of this statement, one thing remains true: Monogamy is a personal choice made by two people in a relationship.
And even if you chose an alternative to monogamy, he'd still need to stick to his word and commitments and the boundaries you set together.
Here are ten s of a good man:
Violating those boundaries is a form of cheating, too. A good man will never cheat in a relationship because cheating means going back on his word or breaking a promise he has made to someone he loves.
Easy, simple, basic, but often overlooked. A good man will show respect to everyone around him — including you. He will not be condescending or put anyone down, regardless of intelligence level or professional position.
As the saying goes, "a man of quality is not afraid of equality. Whether it be between family members or in a relationship, a good man understands that no problem can be resolved until it is faced. The only thing that avoidance of difficulties will accomplish is delaying the inevitable and potentially making things worse.
There is a difference between choosing your battles and avoiding conflict altogether — the important thing is to know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em. There are many different types of abusecertainly not just physical and certainly not just in a relationship. Someone can be emotionally abusive toward or pet as well as their ificant other. Regardless, they all have one thing in common: The desire to break another down. Remember, a good man is one who recognizes that his confidence and worth comes from within himself and never from attempting to place others below him.
2. he doesn’t run for the hills during your period
At any of any type of abuse, walk run away immediately. It will not get better, and you deserve more. These s of a good man will hopefully help you weed out guys who just want to use you or waste your time. We need to stop making excuses for those who mistreat us and start lowering our tolerance for this nonsense. Any self-respecting decent human being will treat you with the love and compassion that you deserve.
James Michael Sama is an award winning Boston based blogger on the topics of dating and relationships, having amassed over 30 million readers in just a year and a half. He writes and speaks on the topics of chivalry, romance, and happiness throughout the country and has been featured repeatedly in news segments, talk shows, and mainstream radio. This article was originally published at James M Sama.
1. he loves you for your dorky, awkward self
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